Robot Monk Xian'er

Effective communication Communication is not to persuadebut to understand. When we try to understand the other side with all sincerity,we will be understood accordingly. Why is it so hard to communicateeffectively? One speculation is that we are not skillful speakers. In fact, thereal reason is that we are much too skillful. You are skillful. He is alsoskillful. The irony is that what the skillful speakers say can’t be trusted.This leads to difficulty in communication. An honest heart with all sincerityis what we need to cultivate. Once this quality is built up in us,communication would be easy even without much talking. If you can feel what the otherwants to say, what he is thinking right now, what is forming in this mind, thenyou will have a way to communicate with him. Otherwise, your conversation isjust idle chattering to kill time. What is lacking, in ourcommunication with others, is tolerance, inclusiveness, and appreciation. Weneed to have the capacity to rejoice when others have done a good