The Susan Winter Show

Baffled as to why they left? Wondering if they’ll come back? Learn why the energetic act of staying frozen as you wait and hope for your partner’s return is the very thing that’s acting as a repellant. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Candice writes, “Hi Susan,I'm a HUGE fan of yours and I think you hit the nail on the head every time you dole out advice.  My question has to do with divorce. I am going through a divorce now and I would love some advice on getting through the grieving process, how to stop questioning whether or not you made the right decision and the best way to put yourself back out on the dating scene again. Thank you!” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Julie writes, “Dear Susan, how can you tell if you and your partner are on the same page regarding the future if your partner is a more reticent, cautious person? I know that my partner loves me a lot, is kind and consistent. However, unlike me, who would love to dive straight in to a life together, he is taking things much more slowly and warily. I sometimes take this for a lack of commitment. Thank you! J” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Alika writes, “Hey Susan, I'm a big fan of yours! My question is about taking chances. Is it a good idea to "shoot your shot" as Millennial’s often say? I find myself wanting to interact with people I see at school or the gym, or even messaging them on social media, but I don't have the guts for it. Even further, I can't tell if I'm being reasonable talking myself down, or if that feeling is actually insecurity?” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Are you tired of watching videos and reading articles about narcissists? Perhaps you’re taking the right approach but applying it to the wrong person. Instead of trying to change the narcissist, why not change your attitude about them? This is the one thing they desperately need from you, and the only thing over which you have complete control. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Just when you thought you’d handled your heartache, it comes raging to the surface. A delayed response to a painful event or situation can put us into a tailspin. Here’s how to handle that emotional onslaught and move through the process of healing. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Dominik writes, “Hi Susan, I‘ve watched all of your videos and they are so helpful, thank you! Before I found you, I used to follow coaches that said things like “Don’t give compliments, otherwise it will make you look anxious, ” etc., but after I found you I realized that with those rules one cannot find love. One can only find love if he shows up. But what do you do if you show up but the other person doesn’t?” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Do you feel like you’re losing faith in finding love? Here’s the good news. Celebrities are leading the new trend towards commitment by pulling the trigger on engagement. What does that mean for you? That the hookup culture is becoming passé as partnership gains momentum. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

The first phase of any growth process is the realization that a change must be made. That’s a good thing. While recalibrating to our new and improved selves, we can temporarily look worse (even though we’re getting better). Here’s how to handle this uncomfortable transition while dating and mating. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Some partners need to create a false reality in their minds so that they can play the victim. By repeating and embellishing ‘alternative facts,’ you’re always at fault. Here’s the best way to stop this dating game, and your need to defend yourself against false accusations. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Joey writes, “Dear Susan, thanks—the way you advocate authenticity is so refreshing. You’ve talked about people having you in reserve/place card, and how you should get up and move on. My question is what is the best way to do this? How much of a conversation should there be? I’ve been seeing a guy I really like for a while and would like more but I feel that I’m stuck as an option not a priority.” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Debbie writes, “Could you perhaps do a video on how to handle it when your partner doesn't give you the attention you need, whether it’s at the start of a new relationship or in a longer-term relationship. I.e. how do you speak to them about it without seeming clingy and how do you handle your own emotions of needing that much attention from them. Thank you.” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

R Baker writes, “Brilliant video, and Nikka was an adorable addition. Can’t wait to see the ‘why did you pick someone who was so difficult?’ video, Susan! I’ve realised that, age 40, if all my boyfriends have been disappointments then the basic common denominator is me. Not them. I really want to change who I gravitate towards. Pretty much guaranteed - if I find myself liking someone, I reckon I should run away as they are guaranteed to be complicated and cause confusion and disappointment in my life.” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Viewer Katia writes, “Hi Susan, I love your videos! You are helping me to find my true self and heal after a breakup. My question is about tolerating differences in a relationship. How do you know when something is a deal breaker versus something that you should compromise on? I'm not sure if I was focusing on the bad or if that one trait was intolerable for me. Thank you!” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Laura writes, “Your videos are true pearls of wisdom. Could you talk about sensible, practical tips for ladies to avoid or handle persistent or unwanted attention?  Any red flags you have experienced and how to deal with pushiness etc. Much love, Laura” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

You may be savvy on decoding hot and cold patterns in dating, but narcissists play a whole different game. Learn how to insulate your heart from needless pain and avoid the emotional tension by being one step ahead of your narcissist. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Your partner’s the one who urged you to move ahead in your relationship. Now, they’re the one who’s backed away. Why? Here’s what happened and here are your options. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Amber writes, “Hi Susan, What do you think about contacting an ex to call them out for being cruel upon breaking up? To get some things off my chest after about a month of no contact and since it's become obvi he's back together with his ex (he tried to play it off like he'd met someone new and told me I just "didn't have it"). I know this isn't true, but it keeps ringing in my ears and I'm still w/an obsessed mind.” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Viewer Ger R writes, “Hi Susan. Please do a video about bringing up the topic of being exclusive. How long before wanting this is reasonable? And, with that conversation, I would think that removing our profiles is appropriate to be part of the discussion. I can understand not dismantling it but it can be kept off of circulation. If your partner never asks to be exclusive and you feel the relationship is at that point, how does one handle this? Thank you, Susan! You take what seems to be big issues in our lives and simplify the thought solving process.” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Heather L writes, “Hi Susan! I am gaining so much value and clarity from your content. It’s helping me improve my relationships with other people, and helping me improve my self-esteem. In one of your videos, you discuss a client that had an inner dialogue of "If I am really, really good... maybe you will like me back." I find myself falling into this pattern. How can I tip the teeter-totter, as you discuss? Thanks!” For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/