The Susan Winter Show

How can you tell your partner what you need without sounding demanding? What if you’re physically attracted to someone with a horrible personality? In these two viewer questions I explain how to effectively communicate your needs by using incentive rather than by demanding, and how attraction occurs (even when it’s irrational). For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

We’re always more lax in the beginning stages of a new relationship. We want to engage our partner, rather than appear difficult.  We don’t want to be demanding, but we do need to let our mate know if they’ve overstepped their boundaries. Here’s how to do that tactfully. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Can you trust yourself?  This is where the seat of your power lies. People are human, and humans make mistakes. When you trust yourself, you trust your ability to make smart decisions and to be resilient in times of relationship challenges. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

How do you handle having a crush on your friend’s partner? And what if two friends are fighting over you (or you’re in competition with your friend over the same person)? These are the viewer questions answered in this video along with detailed analysis on why these things are occurring for you, and to you. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

When we like someone, we often become self-conscious and question our choice of response. We wonder how to answer a text message, or edit ourselves in a new dating scenario. This leads to confusion and the erosion of our confidence. Here’s what you can do to regain mastery of any unexpected situation. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

This style of ‘fake fight’ is a variation on a long-standing classic. But this dating game isn’t crafted to create a breakup. It’s designed to keep you in place, through control. The orchestrator of this technique seeks to hook you into a loop of insecurity so that you’ll never leave. Here’s how to turn the tables.  Here’s how to discern real love, from the fearful state of insecurity that masks as love. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

When confused, we hesitate to do the obvious; just ASK. We fear confrontation.  But mostly, we fear the answer we may receive. Here’s how to get back to natural communication without feeling intrusive or insecure. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

How can you tell your partner what you need without sounding demanding? What if you’re physically attracted to someone with a horrible personality? In these two viewer questions I explain how to effectively communicate your needs by using incentive rather than by demanding, and how attraction occurs (even when it’s irrational). For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

All breakups hurt, but The ‘Honeymoon Phase Breakup’ is the most emotionally torturous. It occurs when our love is new and our hopes are at their highest.  We haven’t had time to see our mate’ s imperfections— so we feel we’re losing ‘the perfect partner.’  Here’s how to offset the pain and recover your emotional stability. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Sex with your ex is common as you uncoil from your relationship. When is it positive, and when is it negative? Here are the signs that show you where you stand and what move you should make for your wellbeing. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

How do you know if they’re a hot and cold player, or just a nervous dater? Trust your gut. And decode the signs that clarify if you should walk away or give them another chance. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Desperation and insecurity can ruin any relationship (whether it’s yours, or your partner’s).  The desperate lover claims that all of the emotional chaos is due to their overwhelming love.  Here’s how to discern real love, from the fearful state of insecurity that masks as love. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

After breakup, a fight or any kind of hurt your man can quickly go from loving to being cold as ice. We, as women, don’t know how to process this. We begin to wonder what’s real. Did he ever care? Here’s the real story of the male ego in peril and why he shuts down. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

In theory, they’re the perfect partner.  They check off every category on our ‘list’.  And, we’re everything they’re looking for.  Why doesn’t it happen? Here are some of the reasons ‘looking good’ relationships don’t take off. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Singles can often feel an overwhelming sense of guilt; guilt for not being partnered and guilt for not caring to be partnered.  Relationships are supposed add quality of life. But what if we already have quality-of-life with our friends and support group? Is that enough? For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Is there a way to tell if your mate can make a positive change? Yes. It’s born of consistency and desire. Here’s the way to know for sure if there’s hope for your relationship. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Are you obsessing over someone and can’t seem to gain control of your thinking? Here’s how to break free from the loop of obsession and gain forward traction in your life. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Balancing give-and-take in a relationship can be a tricky thing. Often times, we tend to get into locked roles. The over-giver feels superior and will be resented by the taker. The taker feels disabled and infantilized and resents the giver. Here’s how to get into a balanced flow. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Traditional formats oftentimes fail modern couples— but that doesn’t mean you can’t stay together. Before you consider breaking up, brainstorm for creative solutions to preserve what works by reconfiguring your romantic design. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

What should you do when you’ve discovered your partner has cheated?  Leaving is a clear choice for many. However, there are other options should you (and your partner) care to salvage your relationship. For more on this topic, check out my feature in Bustle: My Partner Is Cheating On Me — Now What? https://www.bustle.com/p/my-partner-is-cheating-on-me-now-what-50739 For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/