The Holderness Family Podcast

Marriage isn’t always 50/50. In fact, in our marriage, there are times one partner is pulling the entire load. The last few weeks have been tough for our family. On top of the “normal” family struggles that bubble up in every house, my grandmother’s health took a sharp decline. So Penn started using this phrase and pairing it with thoughtful action: “I’m anticipating your needs…” then he would do the thing that I needed. Let’s face it, you know your person better than anyone. You know what would help them feel supported. It takes some knowledge and a little effort, but dang, it’s a game changer. In this podcast, we talk all about how to bring "anticipating needs" into your marriage.Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929.Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review. We also love feedback. Email

It's always fun to interview people we can fangirl over and this week's guest is no exception. Penn and I talk to stand-up comedian, writer, actor, and fellow North Carolinian Fortune Feimster! Everything Fortune does seems to be steeped in positivity. We talk about her growing up in NC, what her parents must have thought about her becoming a comedian, and how she accidentally stole the show in the movie Office Christmas Party. We love Fortune's unique brand of comedic storytelling which she attributes to her Southern upbringing. Anytime we see her in a show or a clip online, she always makes us smile. You can see Fortune in a city near you on her 2 Sweet 2 Salty tour happening now. Learn more and get tickets: https://www.fortunefeimster.com/Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode. Tell us what you like, ask a question, or just say hi. Call 323-364-3929.Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider

We thought it would be fun to hear from you guys this week on some of your favorite Thanksgiving traditions and your crazy stories... and thanks to this new invention called a TELEPHONE we get to actually hear your voices too! This Thanksgiving is going to be a hard one for our family, but your calls brightened our day and made us laugh. We are thankful for you.Don’t forget to call us and leave a message - we might play your question in next week’s episode! You can tell us what you like or you don’t like. Or ask a question. Call 323-364-3929. Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. If you like this podcast please consider leaving us a review where you are listening! We also love feedback. Email us at holdermesspodcast@gmail.com.We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamilyFollow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily Find us

Penn and I talk about treating your marriage like a team using the most inspirational and uplifting muse we know… Ted Lasso. Our family loves watching Ted Lasso, and we’re going through withdrawals now that Season 2 is over. So we thought we’d use some of the show’s best one-liners to talk about treating your marriage as a team. (Who needs couples therapy when you have Ted Lasso, right? Totally kidding.)Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? CALL US AT: (323) 364-3929Or send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.comWe wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review:www.theholdernessfamily.com/book Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamilyFollow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamilyAbout the Holderness Family
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*This podcast episode is around the heavy topic of social media and the prevalence of sexual predators. There is content on the show that people may find disturbing. Though it’s important to have these conversations with your kids, we recommend listening on your own first.* We interviewed my friend, Roo Powell, on our podcast in February 2020 where she talked to us about her work uncovering online sexual predators. Roo is a mom, writer, advocate, and the founder of  SOSA, Safe from Online Sex Abuse, a non-profit that raises awareness and combats the pervasiveness of online sex abuse and exploitation. Roo and the SOSA team have a new docuseries, Undercover Underage, that was released this month on Discovery+ that shows her work undercover to keep kids safe.  To learn more about the work that SOSA is doing and ways you can support this important work, visit their website at: sosatogether.org. You can stream Undercover Underage (rated TV-14) on Discovery+.   Thank you for listening! Your support means the world

People always ask us what it’s like to do our job. We get it. It’s a weird way to pay the mortgage. Our version of a business seminar is when we get to sit down with other creators and share our non-traditional job experiences. That's why we were excited to swap stories with fellow creators Kristin Hensley & Jen Smedley from #IMOMSOHARD on this week’s podcast. We guarantee these ladies will make you laugh, as we did PLENTY of times in this interview. You can find Kristin and Jen on the #IMOMSOHARD: Getaway Tour at www.imomsohard.com. Also be sure to check out their new line of wine, Accomplice, and their new children’s book, The Meanest of Meanies. What’s something weird you have to do at your job? Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamil

Penn and I have been married for 16 years, so we've gotten real comfortable with each other. So comfortable, in fact, that one day we realized... are we showing more gratitude and appreciation to a complete stranger than our spouse? In this podcast, we share our top tips to help when you are feeling a gratitude deficit and how to show appreciation more effectively. Leave a review or comment, and tell us how you make sure you show gratitude to your significant other! Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
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This week we have Dr. Lisa Damour on the podcast, whose books have really helped us understand that teenage minds and bodies are going through A LOT. We ask her our questions about raising teens as well as questions we got from you! Having strategies from her to deal with the predictable stressors has been incredibly impactful--plus she has the most soothing voice. You can learn more about Dr. Damour (and her books and podcast) here: https://www.drlisadamour.com/. Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
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Penn and I went on Instagram to ask you about a time you took a huge leap and also what has held you back. (And wow, some of you guys are braver than we are!) We share your answers as well as our “pre-flight checklist” of things that helped us take a leap or things we wish we did. Have you ever taken a big leap?  Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
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Surprise! This week the Holderness Family team steps in to share their favorite podcast moments while Penn and Kim are traveling. From funny to heartfelt, they guarantee these clips will make you smile. (And they promise Penn and Kim will be back next episode!) Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
: Penn, Kim, Lola, and Penn Charles Holderness create original music, parodies, and Vlogs for YouTube and Facebook to poke fun of themselves and celebrate the absurdity in circumstances most families face in their day to day

Have you ever realized the fights you have with your partner have a pattern? Taking a 30,000 foot view to look at stressful seasons in our lives and how that impacts our fights has changed our marriage. This week we asked our marriage coach, Dr. Christopher Edmonston, to join us on navigating fight cycles and patterns including how to approach and resolve them.  Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
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As our kids are getting older, we want to know the best way to support their athletic goals without pushing too hard. This week on the podcast, we spoke with licensed marriage and family therapist, Nina Westbrook, about the balance, the joy, and the struggles of competing in youth sports.  Nina shares her first-hand experience working her way up to NCAA Division I Women's Basketball at UCLA. She also tells us how we can help navigate our kids through sports, other interests, and mental well-being.   Nina is dedicated to inspiring mental health, interpersonal growth, and self-connection. She has useful tools designed to cultivate a sense of well-being in every area of life: https://benebynina.com/  Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/b

This week, Penn and I talk about how to really understand one another when in an argument. When you're in a fight, using the phrase “I’m Sorry” flippantly is really more about making yourself feel better than your partner. We used to use "I'm Sorry" as a "please-don't-be-mad-at-me-let's-just-let-this-go" Band-Aid, and it did us a lot more harm than good. Not taking the time to understand your partner can fester into having an insecure sense of attachment, among other things. Luckily, we have some magic words to help in this episode. Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.c

Would you rather potty train a toddler or teach a teen to drive? This week we have Dude Dad's Taylor and Heidi Calmus on the podcast to talk all about our different seasons of parenting. We discuss how we first met each other, what it was like to create content in a pandemic, as well as their new TV show Super Dad on Magnolia Network. (Yes, Magnolia like Chip and Joanna Gaines...) Penn also tells more than one poop story... we apologize in advance. You can find more hilarious videos from Taylor and Heidi here: https://www.dudedad.com/ as well as watch their new show here: https://magnolia.com/watch/show/c3dc8b62-f029-5237-904d-283cf1529f6a/super-dad/.  Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook

Right now, there's a trend on TikTok where people are sharing one small decision that changed the entire course of their lives. It got us thinking: What was that for us? Instead one small decision, we feel like we've made several big decisions that shaped who we are today. Join us for a storytime journey along all our forks in the road, including why Penn is solely responsible for Blockbuster going out of business. #donttrustthefart  Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
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Why is it so hard to tell someone what you need? This week Penn and I break down a phrase we say often: “Mature people ask for what they want.” We talk about this as part of a chapter in our book, but we’re going to break down a few of the tips on the podcast. Also BREAKING NEWS! We just found out our audiobook is the Audible Daily Deal! If you’re listening to this on August 24th (the day this podcast came out) and you are an Audible Member you can get our audio book for only $2.95! Redeem the offer here: https://www.audible.com/pd/Everybody-Fights-Audiobook/0785235752 Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfami

Let’s be real, middle school was (all-caps) AWKWARD. Between the braces (and for me, a bad perm) and hormones, it’s a wonder we survived. Michelle Icard has made it her life’s work to help kids through these awkward years. Bless.  Her new book, Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen guides readers through the fourteen essential conversations parents need to have with their kids before they start high school. Also - her first book, Middle School Makeover: Improving the Way You and Your Child Experience the Middle School Years, is a primer for the social and emotional changes parents and kids navigate as they get older.  You can also take her interaction course here: https://michelleicard.com/online-parenting-course/    Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here and if you've read it please leave us a review: www.theholdern

In the past year we've spent more time together than ever before, so why does it feel like we haven’t had as many good conversations? You know I love a list, so I wrote these questions for an after-dinner discussion launching point. Penn and I decided to bring the discussion to our podcast and we learned a little about each other (which is a big deal because we’ve known each other for almost 18 years.) Here is a link to the 9 questions we asked each other: https://theholdernessfamily.com/9-questions-to-ask-your-partner-in-2021/ I encourage you to give it a try as well!   We wrote a book! Learn more and if you've read it please leave us a review: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com Learn more about our book: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Foll

A major theme of this years’ Olympics has been mental health and the pressure athletes face. We wanted to know - what’s the right balance between working hard and performing, but also listening to your gut and taking care of yourself?  On this week’s podcast, we have JJ Birden, former NFL player turned motivational speaker who talks to us about reaching your potential - especially as an underdog. Tune in to hear our conversation on Simone Biles, concussions, youth sports, a 31-year marriage, adoption, and raising 8 children.  We wrote a book! Learn more and if you've read it please leave us a review: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com Learn more about our book: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholde

For the first time ever, our whole family is on the podcast together! Lola and Penn Charles answer all your questions, including which parent they would take with them to a deserted island. What questions did we miss? We wrote a book! Learn more and if you've read it please leave us a review: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com Learn more about our book: www.theholdernessfamily.com/book  Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily  Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily About the Holderness Family
: Penn, Kim, Lola, and Penn Charles Holderness create original music, parodies, and Vlogs for YouTube and Facebook to poke fun of themselves and celebrate the absurdity in circumstances most families face in their d