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Oprah, Will Smith, & my Mom, all had an impact on the topic of today’s episode. Whether you have experienced a major life blow, like a divorce or a job change, or a more minor slight like a negative comment or angry road incident, it makes you mad and can be hard to get over it. On today’s show, we talk about how to ‘Get over’ tough things and move past them to a place where you can find some peace. You can’t control the fact that other people’s actions will impact you, but you can control what you do about it. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How you are impacted by others’ actions The difference between fault and responsibility What your reactions mean How you can ‘turn your mind’ about hard things How taking responsibility empowers you What the four agreements are  How  to use  the four agreements Time frames for moving on, yours and other peoples Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Co

No one likes that feeling of disappointing someone, or when someone didn’t live up to your expectations, this time of year, and this year in particular, there is a LOT out there to find disappointment in. Did you know that there are two types of disappointment?   How do you tell the difference?  Nobody likes that sinking feeling you get in your gut, yet it is a feeling we have all had. Disappointment comes in all shapes and sizes.  So what do you do when someone is disappointed in you? Tune in and find out. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The disappointment you are responsible for When someone’s disappointment is all about them How expectations impact disappointment How to determine your responsibility What to do with all the feels Emotions and manipulation Your body’s reaction Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporat

www.difficulthappens.com What changes have you experienced this year? We are in a time ⏳of (that dreaded phrase) unprecedented change, some changes have led to greater awareness, some changes we will be happy to see the back of. In this episode, we take a look at the changes 2020 has gifted us & how to have gratitude in hard times. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Take the good and leave the bad Unwelcome change Change and adaptation Welcome change Gratitude Finding happiness in unhappy times Embracing an attitude of gratitude Wonder what it’s like to work with a coach? Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: 10 Tips for dealing with difficult people Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessme

We have all made decisions that we later regret. The question is, did you learn the lesson you needed to learn from that miscellaneous regrettable decision? Ever turned down a great job because of a shinier one on the horizon? Have you been silent when you should have spoken up? I have done both! In today’s episode, I share some cringe-worthy moments that impact me to this day and I tell you all about them, what I learned, and what I would do differently today. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Trusting your gut What I have learned from my miscellaneous regrettable decisions Trust your gut Not saying yes, and not saying no What is regret Why you should look back at those embarrassing moments How the martyr works Graceful detachment Redirecting behavior The power of what you can control The verbal processor What to say How we react The conflict triangle, triangulation Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Break

You know that one person who really pushes your buttons? Who gets under your skin? Yea, that’s the one. Everyone has experienced an irritating person, that one dude who sits on your last nerve, or that mom on the PTA who pushes your buttons, or your teenager when they are bored or just exist as a hormonal mess :)   Today we explore why someone pushes your buttons, when it is manipulative and when it is emotionally immature, and what you can do to eliminate or at the very least minimize their impact on you What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Why someone pushes your buttons What your inner state has to do with it How a dysfunctional childhood influences adult behavior The scale of irritation The motive for pushing your buttons How to calm down How to respond to an irritating person When to not respond Wonder what it would be like to work with a coach? Apply for an on-air coaching call Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Com

Think positively, everything happens for a reason, the Universe will take care of it, it will all just magically disappear, it will go away. Have you noticed this type of messaging out there? These vapid empty platitudes, in essence, say absolutely nothing. Toxic positivity is cropping up all over the nation right now, I’m sure you’ve seen it on your news feed or on your social sites. I have witnessed it in my friend groups and from our leaders. How can positivity be toxic? The research on positive psychology shows us that it can be very beneficial to our mind, health, and development. Positive psychology focuses on things like resilience, strengths building, looking at functional and dysfunctional systems. In the right hands, used the right way it can be a healthy lens to interpret & improve thought patterns or thought habits & re-evaluate dysfunctional systems. It can lead to effective tools that you can use in your own personal toolbox and in your personal growth journey. Toxic positivity is the pu

Is unintegrated anger impacting you?  Anger is a powerful emotion, whether it's yours, or someone else's being directed AT you. Righteous anger can inspire and spark change when channeled effectively.  So what do you do about anger? How do you identify, integrate, and express your anger in an effective way? My client Leslie Lyons joins me today to dive into this topic, how movement gives your emotions motion, and so much more. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How anger manifests What is unintegrated anger Healthy anger The purpose of anger When anger is a mask emotion Emotional desire paths The enneagram Movement & trauma Trauma & anger Fear & anger Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara:  Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Complimentary Breakthrough Consultation Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                        Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Serie

There are markers along the timeline of our lives. Moments that mark a change, a significant event, or a vivid memory. Like anchors that signify that after this moment, we became different than we were in the moments before. Holding your child for the first time, when a loved one dies, quitting a job you needed but could no longer tolerate. When sh*t gets real every animal instinct that we have focuses like the Eye of Sauron on the moment and our brains take note of every emotion, every sense, all the data it can find for its databanks. This is how resilience is born - through experiencing some ‘ish. How do you thrive while being flooded with endorphins and instinctually being thrown into a choice to fight, flee, freeze, or appease? A Code Lavender can help. This code is an intervention that is used when challenging situations threaten unit stability, personal emotional equilibrium, or professional functioning. Code Lavender uses evidence-based relaxation and restoration interventions to help people make enou

Some people just push your buttons, but why? Manipulators are masters at it, toxic people do it, and those with immature or dysfunctional communication styles both push your buttons and get defensive. Have you ever thought about what is really going on when your mood instantly changes and someone drives you up a wall, rattles your cage or peeves you off? We all get triggered, it’s part of the great landscape that is the tapestry of our lives. Sometimes we recognize it and sometimes we don’t. As leaders, coworkers, friends or employees it’s important that we strive for healthy reactions, but as whole human beings sometimes, we fall short. Today we take a look at why people are triggered so that you can have the skills to respond effectively. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is a trigger The four most common types of triggered reactions The seed of truth How this relates to communication Dysfunctional and functional responses Emotional triggered reactions (small t trigger) The words you say, and those

Has anyone ever used the silent treatment with you? Have you ever been ghosted by someone? It feels awful to be on the receiving end of someone else’s loud silence. At best the silent treatment is an immature behavior used by immature and manipulative people.  At worst, it is a weapon used by abusers to punish their victims.  Whether the person in your life is using the silent treatment immaturely or abusively, one thing is for sure, it is infuriating to receive. Problems cannot be dealt with, conflicts remain in limbo, simple conversations are impossible, and in the end, relationships employing this tactic become either toxic on nonexistent. In today’s episode, the silent treatment, in its many forms and what to do about it. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is the ‘silent-treatment’ Why someone uses the silent treatment When it’s a manipulation When it’s emotional immaturity How to respond when someone pulls this on you The impact of silence in relationships Why it hurts so much Join the Difficult

When you work in an ego infused male-dominated field it can be hard to thrive. How do you build resilience while thriving in adversity? My guest today, Ashley Fox, is one of the NFL’s most well-respected journalists and a trailblazer in the ego-infused world of sports media. During her 24-year career, including 7 years as a lead NFL reporter and analyst for ESPN. Ashley has covered the Summer Olympics, Wimbledon, the Super Bowl, the NBA Finals, the Final Four, the World Series, the Stanley Cup Finals, and the PGA Championship.  She joins me to talk about building resilience, reaching your goals in adversity, and the 5 ways to be a winner at work. All that, and she just got over the COVID 19 Virus! What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How adversity builds resilience Why in tough times the biggest lessons can be learned What true accountability means Thriving as a woman in a male-dominated field Reaching your goals How to be a winner at work Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group”

https://difficulthappens.com/ Have you ever heard the adage if you want to know who you are, look at your 5 closest friends, or show me who your friends are and I will show you who you are? I have learned that there are certain types of friendships we all need in our lives, friendships that are essential to help us be better, and do better, and help us along our life’s journey. Friendships are like Concentric circles, some friends are in your inner circle, your squad, your posse, your ride or dies, these are the friends you think of first, then there are some who aren't quite as close to you but they are still an important part of your circle. There are layers to Friendships. have many layers. These friendships help you become who you are meant to be. They get you through tough times., and you benefit not just by being on the receiving end, but on being the friend yourself.  In today’s episode, the 5 types of friends you should surround yourself with, and what type of toxic friendships you should avoid. What

“Oh what a tangled web we weave; When first we practice to deceive!” -- Sir Walter Scott Have you ever wondered how people fall for cult leaders? Or why people fall time and time again under the bad influences in their lives? Most people are trusting. You don’t go around expecting people to lie, but when you put your trust into someone who has only their best interests in mind,  you may find yourself making excuses for them.It’s easy to bog yourself down even further and fall victim to their manipulation tactics. There are several ways to identify manipulative behavior in order to cut that toxic behavior out of your life, and unmask the lies for what they are. Most people believe that they know themselves and their biases, that they are not easily persuadable by manipulation tactics, or manipulators but the facts are out there in the stories of toxic workplaces and manipulative bosses and leaders. Why do people fall for lies? It’s not as simple as you may think. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The seven

Garbage in, garbage out. Have you noticed that there is a lot of negative fear-based messaging out there right now? If we were to believe every story, post, or article that is published you may think our civilization is on the verge of collapse. The truth is, its WAYYY better than you may think. On today’s episode, I dive into 5 reasons it’s not all doom and gloom and how you can ‘turn your mind’ from the black & white, all or nothing, thinking What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How the negative messaging seeps in How our animal brain reacts If it bleeds it leads, how messaging sticks with us How growth can be messy but necessary Why we are getting better The benefit of Introspection How gratitude (real gratitude not fake MLM type gratitude) impacts us How to turn the mind Accepting what is Finding the good Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthap

What are Micro-aggressions? Aggression is aggression. Like most things, there is a scale involved, a range. To one extreme the aggression is war, violence, while the other end of the spectrum presents as snide comments and passive-aggressive behavior. Micro-aggressions are so insidious because they hide in plain sight. They are hard to call out and often dismissed by the person using them. These techniques are used by those who have power when they are, or feel, threatened, insecure individuals in particular. It becomes a defense mechanism, it’s purpose is to keep you down, to ‘put you in your place’, thus restoring the persons feeling of power and feeding their fragile ego. Here’s how you combat it, in today’s episode. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: How minimizing is a micro-aggression How Trivializing is a micro-aggression How Grouping is used as a micro-aggression Social constructs The idea of ‘Normal’ The difference between a micro-aggression, a macro-aggression and a micro-insult Why people in pow

Is seems almost cliche to say that we are living in unprecedented times. Or maybe it seems trite. Either way, one thing is certain, bad behavior is on the rise, and so is defensiveness leading to a lot of people acting like Jerks. With emotions at an all-time high how do you be or become a better person when you are surrounded by jerks?? In today’s episode, how to be a better person, not be so negatively impacted by jerky behavior, and techniques to move past defensiveness and ‘just reacting’ to true discourse. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is meant by a heightened emotional state Low-grade depressions impact on how a person acts and reacts Jerks are often defensive out of habit, a desire to control, or out of fear Anger as a mask emotion Looking back to move forward How you are impacted Your sense of self Self-esteem and empowerment Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question?

How we show up online, now, is more important than in pre-COVID times. In-person meetings and large gatherings are a memory and it’s going to be a minute before they come back. So many online platforms have devolved and actual discourse is difficult if not impossible, so how do you show-up and contribute to the conversation and how do you respond to “Trolls” & “Feed-hijackers”? Today I have Deborrah Ashley with me to talk about showing up and engaging the right way online. Deborrah is a marketing strategist, consultant, and LinkedIn trainer with a  background in brand management, marketing & Business Development What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What platform is best for your brand & your business What your profile says about you Everything you say, even on someone else’s post, is findable To engage or not engage a Troll Your voice is needed What is normal anyway Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakt

Dog whistles, tropes, Microaggressions. Women in male-dominated fields deal with these attempts to silence, or sideline, them every week. Last week it came to light that some in presidential candidate Joe Biden’s campaign along with wealthy donors think that Kamal Harris is “Too Ambitious” to be a VP pick. Strong women, women in male-dominated fields, and those who go against  ‘societal norms’ hear this trope as a way to minimize, box, and dismiss their authority. In today’s episode, we dive into these microaggressions, how they show up, and what YOU can do to take your power back while showing these phrases for what they are, fearful attempts to minimize. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The three types of Microaggressions Dogwhistles & tropes used to belittle marginalized groups How systemic misogyny gets in your way Why we are stronger together Standing up to microinsults Why things often get worse, after they get better Why women in male-dominated fields hear these the most What you can say to co

Jerky’esque behavior is rampant these days. Shocker (not). Rude, jerky, manipulative behaviors are dysfunctional coping skills learned and practiced over their lifetime and were born from their family of origin. It’s time to take your Happy back! Hold firm to your boundaries and be treated with respect. Today, we dive into how the bad behavior interferes with you, show you the patterns & cycles the manipulator (&jerk) will go through when you stand firm, and what the most important thing you need to know is so that you can tame that jerk, and outwit that manipulator.   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Why boundaries are so hard to hold How you are impacted The games a Jerk may play The dance manipulators use What is an extinction What is a behavioral burst and what does it look like Free at last Hold yourself accountable, and hold yourself in Grace Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment

“Get down off the cross honey, someone needs the wood” -- Dolly Parton Drama Debbie is in the house, and her martyrdom is impacting everyone. The victim conflict personality type can impact everyone within earshot,   they can be easy to dismiss and tough to deal with directly, don’t get caught chasing the shiny in their drama web.  In today’s episode, we dive into what you can do to redirect drama Debbies’ impact on you and the workplace. What you’ll hear on today’s episode: The victim conflict personality type How the martyr works Graceful detachment Redirecting behavior The power of what you can control The verbal processor What to say How we react The conflict triangle, triangulation Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/  Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments © Lara C